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Timeshifting
Carol Farthing, Ph.D.
Vol. X, No.4
September/October, 2006
On a recent trip to Manchester, England, to work
in our Saint Luke Centre program, my travel arrangements included
a seven-hour layover. Everyone I mentioned this to groaned. Knowing
I had all this "time to kill," I took a light backpack
as my only carry-on. I had no other plans except lunch. When I arrived
at my interim destination, I decided to take a hike and discovered
the airport was arranged in a big circle. I set off. An airport chapel
sign sparked my curiosity and I made a mental note to return. The
endless long corridors were perfect for walking, and I stopped anywhere
that caught my attention. I watched a huge moving art sculpture as
it completed the nine minute complete revolution through the lifts,
drops, rolls and obstacles. I found two cards that were just right
for friends and wrote them waiting for lunch. I had time to eat mindfully,
since I had all the time in the world. On my return circuit, I stopped
by the chapel and discovered that Mass was about to start. People
began to arrive, greeting each other and the priest like friends
and family. Although I had expected a few strangers stopping for
a quiet moment or quick prayer, it became apparent that this airport
chapel housed a vibrant parish of regulars who lived nearby. The
pastor's energy and enthusiasm clearly nourished the parishioners,
and the spirit in the community spread readily to visitors. What
an unexpected delight! When it came time to board my plane, I felt
renewed, as after a day of reflection.
I recognize my airport "retreat" as an experience of timeshifting,
as described by Stephan Rechtschaffen in his 1996 book of that title.
He describes "entrainment" as the process by which rhythms
fall into synchronization with each other, specifically the tendency
for our own rhythms to fall into sync with the pace of the world
around us. In modern society this pace is FAST. We move quickly,
eat quickly, work quickly and play quickly. Most of us note that
the pace is exhausting, while we continue to run as fast as we can
to "get it all done." We "relax" with fast-paced
TV shows, computer games or surfing the net-activities that continue
the unrelenting pace. We approach most days with unrealistic "to
do" lists. Day's end brings satisfaction at seeing items checked
off or disappointment if expectations are not met. Possible moments
of surprise and wonder are missed, and the unexpected is considered
a distraction to be avoided. With multi tasking we try to accomplish
even more. Time management courses teach us to turn "up the
speed on the treadmill of our lives." Rechtschaffen recommends that we re-learn how to
rest by paying attention to our own rhythms, especially noticing
that our bodies and emotions
operate in a range of rhythms, not at just one pace. We can learn
to step out of our automatic entrainment to society's pace and
slow down. Timeshifting, -the capacity to consciously shift our rhythm
- begins with attending to the present moment. The next step is
to
use all our senses to become aware of what is happening in us and
around us. Then we are free to choose to shift our rhythm to what
the moment dictates or to stay with a different rhythm. The goal
is not always to replace going quickly with going slowly, but to
be aware of our rhythm and the choices we make. Going fast when
things need to be done quickly and "downshifting" to a slower
pace to relax make it possible to function without being enslaved
by society's pace.
In an accelerated paced world, thoughts and reactions
are quick. Slowing down, however, is crucial for experiencing our
emotions or
making meaningful contact with others. It takes time to become
aware of feelings and to experience them fully. Rechtschaffen says "serenity
only exists when time moves slowly." One of the effects of our
busyness is that we don't have time to feel, especially to feel pain.
Avoiding emotional pain unconsciously reinforces our high-speed lives.
Ask several people to sit still and do nothing for a few minutes
and notice their responses: "I can't do that; I'd feel guilty
about all I need to do," or "it makes me nervous and I
have to get up." With enough speed, we can temporarily avoid
the pain, but we also miss the opportunity for serenity. When we
allow ourselves to experience emotion without taking action, the
painful feeling gradually subsides. As we become more present, it
is as if the moment expands and there is room for us to be surprised
and delighted by the beauty and wonders around us. Healing involves
experiencing the feelings that we run from in order to learn the
lessons they teach about how we are living our lives and what we
truly need. Rechtschaffen talks about creating timeshifting rituals
or opportunities for increasing awareness of the moment. Almost anything
we choose-
listening to music, an external cue such as the ringing of the
phone, slowing at the beginning of a meal, pausing for a few breaths,
scheduling
unplanned time - can remind us to come into the present moment.
On my return trip through the same airport, a planned
45- minute layover was delayed for another hour. The magic of my
last visit
was gone as I experienced the wait as dull and frustrating. I had
re-entrained with society's rapid pace. I was "waiting for my
plane" rather than "being open to the moment." The
good news is that I noticed the difference. I know that timeshifting is always one present moment away and wonders are there to be discovered.
I can choose to transform "time to kill" into time to live
more fully in the present. This is particularly important to understand
as we gear up for Fall's increased activity. Timeshifting would advocate
a balance of different paces, so that we experience the rich journey
of our lives as we move toward our goals. Carol Farthing is a Licensed Psychologist and the
Associate Clinical Director at Saint Luke Institute. LUKENOTES is a bimonthly
publication of Saint Luke Institute.
Permission to use these materials must be requested in writing by contacting
lukenotes@sli.org
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DEPARTMENT
Saint Luke Institute
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