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Thoughts On Leaving Saint Luke Institute
Rev. Canice Connors, O.F.M. Conv.
Vol. I No. 1
February 1997
What do I take with me after seven years as CEO of
Southdown and five years as President of Saint Luke Institute? After
one hundred and forty-four months of tasting, touching and seeing
the peculiar sufferings of priests and religious and a wide array
of responses to scandal from victims, superiors and local church,
what have I learned? What will I remember?
Often during the embarrassing, painful shadow years
when the clergy abuse of minors was nearly everyone's scandal, it
seemed that pastoral
instincts were dissolving into curt legal solutions. With only
a hint of the glib and cynical, we began referring to our work as
a
ministry to the lepers. Then came the turning event - the accusation
of Joseph Cardinal Bernardin and, more importantly, his response
that changed the legal paradigm back to the pastoral. On the first
anniversary of his accusation, he visited Saint Luke and spoke
his experience to residents and staff. If credibility has flesh it
stood
before us that day. The environment changed - Church leaders do
things like that; all it took was vulnerability.
I will continue remembering the number of Bishops
and Provincials who confessed in the privacy of my office to their
desire for some
time away for healing and recovery. Just suppose there was an
effective ministry for Church Leaders. What would have been different
about
these past years of scandal? Imagine if our clergy had seen the
modeling of Leaders breaking the barriers of secrecy and silence
about their
own lives.
Is it mere speculation that some of them might have
come forward for help before being forced there by public pressure
and scandal?
With rare exceptions have I ever met any priest or
religious during these twelve years plagued with malicious intent.
Most were men and
women of generous spirit who had performed many ministerial tasks
encumbered by denial. The spiritual and physical exhaustion of
bearing dread secrets was palpable. For the most part these patterns
of denial
began during the first five years after ordination or final profession.
My conviction after 12 years of informal observation is that prevention
dollars should be focused on these five years. No matter what improvements
seminaries institute (and many have done splendid work), we will
never know the fiber of any candidate until they are in ministry.
I leave LUKENOTES readers three points to ponder:
- Working within residential
programs has convinced me that breaking out of patterns of denial
and secrecy is effected through modeling. Straight talk is generative.
Direct discourse from the top would go a long way toward breaking the patterns
of silence and stealth. Frequently, clergy gatherings promote evasion by negative
modeling; the folks know they are not hearing the straight story and unhappily
continue the pattern.
- The personnel problems that have plagued us in the
past five years are largely the detritus from 20 to 30 years ago.
As always, we are getting good at treating
issues that probably will not occur with any frequency in the near future.
It would be wise to sponsor conferences on current trends. Are we
experiencing any
concerns about the interests, habits and concerns about the recently ordained
and/or professed? And what about the apparent increase in the number of priests
and religious involved in anonymous sexual contacts?
- A significant number of residents express the wish
that a confessor would have imposed more pressure to take steps toward
treatment instead of wishing them
peace after hasty absolution. Are we generally too swift to absolve and wish
peace when a more challenging response might have proved more effective? In
light of all that we have learned about the diseases of denial, it
may be time to review
some of our pastoral practices.
My professional excitement over these 12 years
was to experience the enthusiasm of mental health professionals to take into
account the dimension of the spiritual. A few even began with the conviction
that all "God talk" is a cover-up, and certainly this has proven so
in many a case. But all came to see the positive effect of solid spiritual direction.
I got into this ministry because of a Provincial's directive; I stayed because
I learned so much from the residents. On December 10, 1996 Father Canice Connors completed
five years as President of Saint Luke Institute.
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